“Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human.” These are the opening words of a famous quote by none other than Aristotle himself. His words became a cornerstone of the human psyche and consequently, this leads to words like love. How love is a fundamental human need. This is a primal drive that actually pushes more and more people to add non-traditional methods in their search for their significant others. You see, in the usual sense, people find their romance within their social circles, friends of friends, a friend of relatives, and so on and so forth. In the age of social media, however, this is no longer the case, your choices and the reach that you have has been multiplied exponentially. We have a multitude of Dating apps, even the so called music dating app also abound. So is the need real? or was it created to rake in profits?
There are of course two sides to every story and these online dating apps are no exemptions. This important social activity so fundamental to us as a society is reduced to swiping and clicking on a screen. Not to mention the internet is chock full of people who want nothing more than to take advantage of gullible lovesick people. Forgive me going on about the negative side of this but by doing so, we shed light on what we can expect from these kinds of apps. These sites are a haven for scammers, predators, and people that would do you harm, for them, this is another hunting ground.
Again there is a flipside, while what I said above is true, the same can also be said of those with genuine intent and use these sites for what they are intended to be. Some argue that doing it online is unnatural and non-spontaneous as you have time to actually think, write and rewrite your response. A good analogy is that of a photoshopped picture, instead of a candid one. the interaction does not feel like a “real” conversation. Recently I have heard a speech on youtube by a recent graduate about how we are reduced to browsing movies on Netflix instead of just going on ahead and watch one. We are presented with so many choices that we actually spend an eternity looking and swiping over profiles very quickly judging people so quickly as we scan them.
People lie on free music dating app, people lie in real life. In the end, whether or not you are actively searching for the “one” things tend to align and conspire if people are really meant for one another. At least I would like to believe that.